i read about the news concerning china maids and was surprised by the feedback offered by the public. a majority of the chinese commmunity (especially women) said that the introduction of china maids will break families because most chinese men (60% of them are senior citizens) have mistresses from the mainland. what a joke!!!
not all china ladies come to malaysia to look for sugar daddies and ruin marriages. heck, not all of them are willing to become “chicken” in our country. they are forced to by various evil people and syndicates. all they ever wanted was to lead a happy life in malaysia and perhaps send money back to their homeland. however, they could not have proper jobs because their passports are kept by evil people. so, as the saying goes, “sex sells!!”
it surprises me that only reggie lee (that guy is talented and he brightens up my wednesday,friday and sunday mornings with his comic strip in The Star) and Chong Sheau Ching (she writes the column “Stories for my Mother”) took a swipe at the mostly chinese community’s narrow mindset. how come Karthirasen (he writes on Sunday Times), Gavin Yap (also on NST) and my favourite columnist Mary Schneider (“But Then Again” on The Star) never wrote about it?? well, maybe they will write about it someday.
think about it, adulterous men will do it with any woman be it indonesian, thai, vietnamese or chinese. hey, it doesn’t matter what meat you give to a hungry dog, it will eat it. so, housewives out there who are afraid of your husbands having “extra co-curricular” activities with your china maids (if you have one) then i suggest meeting with a marriage counsellor/pastor/priest/a high ranking person in one’s religion/face to face with your spouse and find out what is the problem and how to fix it. if all fails then i think you should seek a good divorce lawyer.
by the way, did i mention about malay men having an affair with their indonesian maids? chinese women all over malaysia, you are not alone. you have the same fear as all the other women in the Malaysia (and even the world!!!). it’s only that if we do not accept indonesian maids, we will have a shortage of maids. what about indonesian maids who run away with “aliens” (pendatang tanpa izin) or Pakistani hunks or even Bangla casanovas?? how come there were no calls from the public to deport and never accept maids from indonesia??
i believe that non-muslims in the country will be better off with chinese maids. for starters, most of them are not muslims: which means that they can enjoy whatever food you have unless they are allergic to it without being concerned about its “halal-ness” (is there such a word??). second, they do not fast during a period somewhere in November and December which means that they have energy to do the chores as they do not fast during the days leading to hari raya aidilfitri. like Chong said in her column yesterday (4th of June,2007), they need not to be trained to cook chinese cuisine and could be a good Mandarin(or other dialects in chinese) tutor to your children or to yourself. indian children who go to chinese schools can improve their language if they speak to their chinese maid at home. furthermore to the chinese, you can actually communicate with them using your mother tongue and celebrate CNY/mooncake festival/other chinese celebrations together.
if you are so worried about your husband being active in “extra co-curricular” activities with your maid, show him that you are more worth it than your maid. you can clean/cook/wash better than your maid and show that you can do it (but that means you don’t really need a maid). you can be a good maid but the maidcould not be a better wife. always be by his SIDE and he’ll never end up in your maid’s or other women’s bed(SIDE). trust the man that you marry and work to keep the marriage. if he screws up to a point of no return then make sure the last thing he sees is your back(SIDE).
if there was a notion of bringing indian maids to malaysia, my dad will be the first to sign up. if that really happens, guess i have to eat chapati at home daily. did i mention about the free Tamil lessons?